I have a way of always ruining surprises.
One time, when I was in New York on my birthday, I looked over across the table at my mom at the exact moment that she was pointing me out to a server to “surprise” me with a birthday cheesecake.
Not only do I have a knack for being at the wrong place at the right time, I also generally don’t like surprises in the first place.
When I turned 18, my cotillion court successfully surprised me once with a video and song. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t upset that they surprised me – I was super appreciative of the surprise! But at the time, I was more sad that they spent all this time without me to plan the surprise instead of being happy about it! I know, I’m weird like that.
I don’t know what made me this way, but The BF has been warned and knows this about me. So this proposal was a feat in and of itself – not only did he want to propose to me, but he wanted to surprise The Girl Who Hates Surprises herself.
The BF and I have been dating for quite some time now (about 10 years on and off), so the topic of marriage has definitely come up a few times. Months ago, I was jokingly asking him when he was going to propose to me.
This is probably why I’m always spoiling surprises – I have a pretty good sense of what a “surprise situation” looks/feels like as it approaches, so I annoyingly start asking about everything!
For some reason, I had a hunch that it was going to be on a special day. I kept throwing out dates to him.
“Are you going to propose on our anniversary?”
“No, stop asking.”
“Are you gonna do it on Thanksgiving?”
“No, stop asking.”
“Not Christmas, right?”
“No, stop asking.”
“It’s your birthday, isn’t it…”
“Noooooooo… STOP ASKING!”
The topic quickly changed to something else, and I forgot all about the conversation…
Up until about three months ago.
The BF and I went on a dinner date. He said he had to tell me something. He told me he was going to propose to me on his birthday, but since he didn’t get the promotion that he was hoping for, he would have to delay the proposal.
Little did I know, this was all part of his plan to throw me off.
The day before his birthday, we had a very busy day. We spent most of the afternoon at a practice we had for an event we help run every year. Not to mention this rehearsal was out in the hot heat and there were A TON of mosquitoes biting at us all day (seriously, I think I still have the marks from all the bites on my legs).
On top of being exhausted from practice, we went to a birthday party of a friend who actually has the same birthday as The BF. He was being extremely quiet the entire time we were there, but I just tossed it up to the fact that we were super exhausted from that afternoon.
Before the clock struck midnight, The BF and I left to go to a spot in the town over next to the water that we used to go to a lot back when I didn’t have a job and had all the time in the world. We were with people all day and his only request for his birthday was to have it just be us two at midnight. We ordered two slices of cake from a local bakery earlier and enjoyed them as we looked at the stars and listened to the sound of the water.
Right when midnight struck, I sung him a super quick happy birthday and was going to suggest going straight home since I was so tired and figured he was tired, too, since he was quiet all day.
But instead, he convinced me to go on a walk. As we were strolling along, he says,
“I’m sorry I couldn’t propose to you on my birthday”.
“That’s okay, don’t worry about it.”
“…I’m sorry I lied”
He continued to lead me to the middle of a landing to stairs that lead to the water and started to go into his little speech. It was super dark, until I noticed a very bright light coming toward us and the sound of music coming from the same direction. The song that was playing was “Endlessly” by The Cab.
At this point, everything was a blur. Immediately after he proposed, I discovered that my brother, cousins, and two good friends were there to help create and capture this moment. Things that didn’t make sense months and even days ago suddenly were clear to me.
Oh, and the importance of the song? If you read the lyrics, it’s about knowing the road won’t be perfect, that it’ll be a hard journey, and it won’t be easy. We might not have a lot of money, but we’ll make it through.
Yes, I’m super late with this post but I did want to share with you all the proposal story!
How does your proposal story go?